oh what to do?

so while i dont have the same obvious frustrations as alice is having these days...i'm having some of my own.

so my cousin (one of many who got engaged last summer) and the last cousin of mine to get married (my sister and I will be the lone singles after this wedding) has set a date for his wedding. and its going to be in mid-July....this year....in Las Vegas of all places. now, i love Vegas (actually i haven't been back since I was nearly 12 and I really really want to go back), but who gets married in mid-July in the middle of a desert? even if there is air-conditioning and i'm sure it'll be a fun fun fun wedding (it is Vegas)....why would you want your guests to melt on their way to and from the airport? and this dear cousin of mine certainly didnt get the drift when his older brother got married a few years in Hong Kong...again in early July in 105 degree weather...and while I didn't attend that wedding (since it was very very last minute), i did see the pics and everyone looked like they were going to melt right then and there. why do that to you guests? and why July of all months? and while I love Vegas...i find it so strange since the bride and groom are both from New York....know a TON of people in NY...and they could easily fill two reception halls if they had the shindig in NY....and i know their guest list has to be at least several pages long...so why make everyone fly to Vegas??

one of the reasons why i'm venting is that i thought this wedding was going to be for September...or even later. and i'm of course thinking of me since i'm hoping to get some time off in may to go to my 10 year high school Reunion and see my sister graduate from med school (totally freaking me out....she'll be a bona fide doctor!) and of course see my friends....and since I just starting working again and i know i'll have barely enough days to cover the trip in may (that is if my manager is nice enough to let me go...it'll be right after my trial period = in france, you arent hired for sure until your trial period is done)....so i dont know how i'll be able to do the july wedding...(again, another vent...why make everyone fly during one of the peak seasons of the year??? in the summer? when flying is pure hell??) first off, its going to be super expensive and the boy and i try to not to take any vacation days during the summer when the rest of france is taking days (especially people who have kids and who are on summer break). its just too crazy to get them approved by HR and its just plain stupid to go anywhere in july or august if you can help it....everyone in europe is on the road....

i feel better now....apparently the dates are set in stone as they haven't signed the contracts yet..but still. good lord....i just dont want to have come back in may and then do another expensive quickie long weekend trip in july. and what really really makes me mad is that i had to find out about the dates through the dear cousin's older sister....people, you need to send a "save the date" card out! especially if its january....and you are getting married in july! maybe i'm neurotic....but still....people have plans...and start getting invited to more weddings....its not when we were 22 and one person we knew got married in one year....stuff happens!

ok...its all out on the table....it'll all work out...